Depression is a monster. I was originally going to go into more detail with that statement, but I don’t feel that there needs to be anything more said. Depression is one of the cruelest monsters that over 300 million people have to deal with. These are just the people that are diagnosed – there could…
Greetings to you all. I am very much alive and kicking before you think that some horrible incident resulted in my deletion. Quite the contrary. In fact, it has been a rather interesting last couple of months. It would make more sense for me to say that it has been an interesting half year. That is the honest truth.
I have been bouncing around lately. To give those of you who care, I was working on a mine with one company, and I decided to leave them for another company. I then worked for the new company (while completely ignoring all the red flags). I then decided that the red flags were too many and I have moved again.
Now I think I would like to talk about Red Flags. For some reason when these red flags are subconscious (as in, not actual red flags telling you to stop your machine or vehicle), we tend to wait to either almost getting burnt before taking them seriously.
I know that many of us have had a situation where we have met someone of the opposite sex who we would like to get to know intimately, and all the signs are in our faces, but we ignore them. He/she wants to know your family history, where you live, where you work, what time you get to work, what time you have lunch, what your password for your phone is, who your best friend is, why you shouldn’t hang out with a particular person, how many email addresses you have and all of this is information they try and glean from you on the first date. These are all potential red flags that we should take seriously. Unfortunately, we are human and we say, “Well fuck it. It’s only the first date. Maybe he/she is nervous. That’s cute”. The fact is, we need to learn to trust our gut feelings.
We tend to ignore gut feelings when it comes to a number of things. It is possibly because we think we know better. I think we ignore our gut feelings because we act as though our brains know better. I think that gut feelings are our instincts kicking into overdrive. Instead of giving us a logical reason, they just give us that funny feeling in the belly.
I read an article that said that there were types of companies to avoid working for. These are some of the red flags or signals to look out for:
- The high turnover outfit: Ever worked where there are constantly people being hired? Surely that means there are just as many people being fired
- The culture clash corp: So this is a company which basically has a toxic culture. On the outside, the building will look shiny and the cars will look properly branded. However, once you get into the belly of the beast, you find that even if you request an adaptor for your office, after 8 months nothing will have been purchased. This actually happened to me!
- The top heavy business: Too many executives talking about doing things and not enough able people employed to make it happen.
- The “Stagnator”: Now this is an interesting one. There are organisations that do not provide any sort of professional development plans regardless of your role. There are no mentorship opportunities and anything relating to assistance in furthering your education results in you being judged by your “peers” who make snarky comments as opposed to supporting your decision to further your education.
Now I am sure that everyone has experienced one or more of the above situations at some point in their working life. The fact is that we need to learn from our experiences. If we fail to learn from them and figure out how to deal with situations better, we won’t go anywhere. We will keep making the same decision expecting different results. Life is too short to suffer in silence. There are better employers out there than the one you may be working for. Work must not be a jail sentence. We do it to survive and it is very difficult to find a job that makes you the happiest puppy in the litter. However, the least that your employer must do is also treat you with decency, respect, humanity and fairness. If you can’t get most of those things in whatever shape or form, then my advice is get job hunting. Never settle for second or third best.
Eli DeFariaI remember when I was 24 — I was working at my big girl job, and I recall telling my co-worker that I had hopes of working in the entertainment industry. I foolishly shared my aspirations with her, and do you want to know what she said? She said, “Aren’t you too old to…
So after 94 minutes of straining to follow this movie, I managed to conclude that I could have better spent the 94 minutes doing something else…. like sleeping.
I have to admit that the movie started off with a bit of a bang. It seems a little bit interesting. It follows an American living in London with his daughter. He works as a security guard during the day and moonlights as a single father at night. However, his world is turned upside down when three individuals break into his house and try and rob him of drugs (shock horror cocaine), only for them to realize that they have got the wrong address. After they threaten to kills his daughter (after they beat him into unconsciousness with baseball bats and he wakes up), he decides to go bad ass and kill all three of the robbers.
If the movie was to end at this point, it would have been a brilliant start and end to a movie. There would have been enough mystery around who this main actor dude was, why his wife was dead, and it also showed that he was a bad ass and loved his daughter so much that he was willing to murder some dudes in self-defense.
Unfortunately, the guys who wrote this movie decided to carry on with the movie. They then made up some feeble story about him being some agent for some unnamed secret agency in ‘Murica, how his wife was killed because of the job, and how much he loved his daughter (even though he kills her grandfather at the end of the movie).
What then ensues in between the rather bland story telling, is a lot of chase scenes (It seems like they ran across most of London), semi-exciting fight scenes that had a lot of slow motion wrestling moves and more drop kicks than one would see in The Royal Rumble 2017.
I would strongly suggest that if you have nothing to watch, don’t watch this movie. Take your chances with watching paint dry. That would be more engaging than watching these guys running around and getting paid to act as though they are distressed.
The movie was so distressing that I am struggling to find many more words to describe the feeling that I went through, lying in bed and concentrating on the occurance of the actors in this movie. It didn’t even have a happy ending when it could have had one. They actually killed the only possibility of giving it a happy ending. They also ensured that there would be no room for a sequel (Thank God!) but tying up all the loose ends.. all one of them.
Watch at your displeasure!
There are various sayings of encouragement one can use. “If you don’t shoot, you won’t score”
“If you don’t shoot, you don’t score”
“If at first, you don’t succeed…..”
“If you don’t buy a ticket to the lottery….”
I have probably been lulled into a state of comfort because of the fact that I have a job at the moment. However, it would be totally remiss of me to say that I am a happy camper at my current place of employment. So what is the plan?
Before I skirt around the plan, there are some other things that I might as well mumble loudly about. It is next to impossible to be completely happy at work. That is something that needs to be clarified. An important question that one needs to also ask themselves is why do we work. For myself, the answers are all over the place. I work to survive (feed, clothe and entertain myself). When taking into consideration Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, my reason for working is still at the second stage – safety.
Work for me feels like a way of being safe. I am not a very good at taking risks, and this is the reason why I have probably found myself in a little bit of a weird place. I have been working for the same organization for the last six years of my life. Sometimes too afraid of change, other times too comfortable to fathom what the world out there other than my current employer is like. At the same time, I make time every day to complain about one or five aspects regarding work. Of course, everyone complains about work. I used to think that my dream job was being a video game tester, but I don’t think I am cut out doing what I enjoy doing in my spare time for a living. I mean, I like my field of employment. There are many aspects that I can get to experience, there are always challenges, problems that need to be solved and daily minor victories that I am able to celebrate, even if they are celebrated all by myself.
They say that human being use a minute percentage of the capacity of our brains. Sometimes I feel it is because of the false sense of comfort that is portrayed to us through the various medias that we see and hear. We/I spend too much time being happy about the minor victories but never realizing that there is so much more that is out there for one to achieve.
2017 is the year for positivity. So this year I challenge everyone who takes the time to listen to my ramblings to take at least one step out of their comfort zone. Do something that you know you should have done a while ago. This should be the year of always forward, backward never. My middle school had a Latin saying on the coat of arms. It read “Ex fide Fiducia” – From faith arises confidence. Let’s have a little more faith in ourselves and also in each other. Let’s go and buy that lottery ticket. Let’s definitely take that shot. We all only have one life. Live it to the fullest.
“Hell is when the person you become meets the person you could have been”
Omar YassenSeriously. Let 2017 be the year you finally accept what you have done, and come to terms with the fact that you will never be able to change that. Let it be the year you come to terms with everything that you haven’t done, and everything that you haven’t accomplished, and just let it be.…
simonanicotraThank you for being in my life even if my life took me miles and miles away from you, I can still feel you next to me. Thank you for always lifting me up when I’m down even if you have to do it through video calls and weak internet connection. Thank you for being…